Are You Stuck?

Have you been stuck in the snow this winter? Were you ready for it?

You might have an emergency kit in your trunk for such an instance. Some sand to put under the wheels is a good start. A compact shovel is great. Both would be better. Keep the phone number for Roadside Assistance handy for when you can’t handle it alone.

Of course, there’s more than one way to get stuck. You could be stuck in a dead-end job. You could be stuck in a bad relationship. You could be stuck between generations by taking care of both your children and your parents. You could be stuck living the same old routine, day after day, after day, after day. My advice is to have an emergency kit for when you get stuck in life. Here are a few tools to have ready – just in case.

Establish a positive attitude. Be vigilant about maintaining a positive outlook. Attitude is everything. And the longer you stay positive, the more difficult it will be for the negative to take over for very long. You’ll like feeling good too much to allow yourself to feel bad for very long. 

"What I do today is important because I’m exchanging one day of my life for it."

- Author unknown

Write out your top goals, both personal and work related. Rewrite them every day. Pick the goal that will make the most impact in your life, and make a list of things you need to do to carry out that goal. Get up early in the morning, pick the most important thing to do, and start working on it. Keep going until it’s done. Do a little celebratory dance (not optional), and go on to the next thing.

Be persistent. It’s fine to change your plan. It is not fine to give up altogether. When things are not good, be gentle with yourself, but don't give up moving toward your goals. Sometimes all you'll be able to do is one small step off your lists. Do it anyway. That one small step in the right direction might be the thing that starts your momentum going again.

Keep a best friend on speed-dial. Find a friend who understands you. Someone you can relate to, and count on, to be honest with you. God and family come first. But nurture this important friendship, and grow it into a mutual support system.

With these tools in my kit, I’m ready for the inevitable times when I’m going to get stuck in life. Sometimes you simply have to force yourself to put one foot in front of the other and get going. What’s in your emergency kit?