Do This Instead of Obsessing
Have you got a bad situation that you don’t know how to let go of? Maybe something ugly happened, and there’s nothing you can do about it. Still, it's bothering you enough so that you can’t get it out of your head?
Yeah. I know this problem, too. I like to fix things. But sometimes things can’t be fixed.
Here's a thought...
Quit focusing on yourself, and focus on someone else for a while.
This will let the time pass that needs to pass to allow you to heal. Even if you’ve forgiven someone you need time to get over what happened.
So instead of wallowing in the hurt—get busy. Not make-believe busy where you tell people you’re busy because you don’t want to do whatever.
This busy is to throw yourself into something worthy of your time. It doesn’t have anything to do with the hurt. It has everything to do with letting the time pass.
Since that time is going to pass anyway, you may as well be doing something worthwhile.
Learn something. Teach something. Clean something. Build something. Share something. Anything that’s something constructive while you wait for time to do the job of helping you get over the hurt.
Time to grow in understanding and forgiveness. Time to raise the strength so that you can rise above. Time to build new relationships. Time to find your real self again.
We sure spend a lot of time focusing on ourselves. So can we actually find ourselves while we're focusing on others? Doing something for someone else, not because of what they can give us. But simply because they exist?